How to Flirt with Women in VRChat
Women like the mystery. They want romance. They want the chase, like a cat and mouse game. Why you just sit there in a corner, being quiet and needy? Stop it. Let me teach you how to flirt with women in VRChat to get the girl you want. Ready?
How to Rizz Up a Girl in VRChat
Do you usually approach girls in VRChat trying to rizz them up, but you always fail for some reason? If you can't hold her attention, it's most likely because of these two things:
1. you don't have the necessary experience.
2. you think things should be done in a specific order and you don't want to change that. You think your way is the correct way of dealing with a woman in VRChat.
However, if you don't get the results you expect, isn't it fair to assume that your way is not the best, and look somewhere else for answers?
If you think you know enough, you will not look for more information. This is true not just for dating, but also for life in general. If society has taught you that left is right and right is left, why would you ever question that? In the same way, if society taught you that you should treat women nicely and do everything for them, why would you question that? OK, you do you, but, if it's not working for you, maybe it's time to change tactics. I'm here to help!
Women like the mystery. They want romance. They want the chase, like a cat and mouse game. You might be thinking, "What a waste of time!", right? However, if you refuse to learn the flirting game, you will always be left alone, wondering "What am I doing wrong?", while she will go hang out with another guy who has a better 'game' than you.
The direct approach hardly ever works on them because they don't think like us. They're not men. Women are emotional creatures. You first gotta make them FEEL something, for them to become interested in you. So, how do you tell a woman that you're interested in her?
You don't.
She already knows. Why else would you go up to her and initiate a conversation? Have you ever noticed how, when a confident or playful woman talks in VRChat, guys just gather around to listen and engage? Yeah, she knows.
Women do not want you to walk up to them and confess your feelings. That's boring. You gotta make it INTERESTING. You gonna let them wonder whether you're interested or not. A woman will talk to everyone in the room, about everything. On the other hand, a guy will only talk with someone if he has a good reason. Or, if he already knows something about the subject that's being discussed. Your reason might be that you're interested in a particular girl that's talking.
When you approach her, you have to show CONFIDENCE. If you go to a girl in VRChat and you are stuttering and are a nervous wreck, she will sense it. Maybe she will be nice and try to make you feel better, but deep down she already marked you as someone not interesting.
Nothing is sexier to a woman than a DEEP, confident VOICE. Since she cannot see you, she can only pick up your personality from your voice. So work on that! Go talk to people. Talk to as many people as you can. And don't just listen, share your story too!
If you're NERVOUS around women, talk to guys first. Improve your conversational skills. Then approach women you have no interest in. That would make it easier for you to talk to women in general, not just in VRChat. You have to have the mindset that it doesn't matter whether or not she likes you. You are there to have fun. I know it sounds counter-productive, but it works, trust me. The less you care, the better!
Be mindful of your voice. Do not talk fast; pace yourself. If you go "blah blah blah" and you're all over the place, she will move on.
Do not talk about technical stuff. Unless the woman you're talking with is working or studying in a related field, she will most likely have no idea what the frak you're talking about.
Have a nice AVATAR. Don't pick something repulsive or childish. Why would she want to waste her time looking at something ugly? Having a male avatar helps her build rapport with you more easily than if you have a female avatar. However, it's not a deal-breaker; it depends on the woman, so don't stress it.
Say her name when talking to her, and use an enthusiastic tone. If you sound bored af, she will think you are. Be chill. You're there to have fun and you don't care if a woman will be interested in you or not.You gotta learn to be FUNNY, and get that flirty vibe going. Humor works wonders on a woman, especially since she cannot see you. A woman cares more about your personality and confidence than your looks. If you don't know how to be funny, there are plenty of tutorials on YouTube.
If you have a VR set, go ahead and touch her. Physical CONTACT is a great way to build rapport. However, do not keep touching her! Less is more in this case. You have to take two steps forward, and one step back. After you touch her, notice how she reacts. Is she pulling away from you? Does she allow it? A light touch can subconsciously tell a woman that you are interested in her. I know in VRChat can be hard to tell, because literally everyone is doing it. But you wouldn't be touching someone that sounds bad or boring, would you?
By touching her you let her know that you're interested in her and that it's ok if she touches you back if she has a VR set too. If you don't own a VR set, there's this little trick you can do to touch her: press R, go to Tools, and enable the Personal Mirror. Escape, then left-click to hold the mirror, and then you can touch her! Isn't that great?
Tease her with your light touches, but don't overdo it. Let her wonder whether you are interested or not. Women love a challenge.
Compliment her on her avatar BUT don't compliment her all the time, or get excited about everything! The point is to not agree with everything she says, like every other guy that approached her. As long as you don't come off as needy, women will react positively to you.
Women love sending mixed signals... Even if she is interested in you, she will most likely not tell you, because she loves the chase. When a woman is used to getting attention from every guy in the instance, but there's that one guy nearby who doesn't care, it makes her want it even more. You could be there chatting with one of her friends, not giving a frak about her, being playful and all, and she will notice. Women always want what they can't have; it's how their brains work.
Lose the NEEDY attitude! You don't care whether she talks to you or not. Once she responds to your touch, either by getting closer to you or touching you back, pull back a little and let her wonder what the frak is going on?!
Women are not attracted to NICE GUYS! They say they do, but they really don't. If you are always there, always available - like a needy puppy - you are just going to become another one of her endless male friends. You cannot agree with everything she says. If anything, you should make fun of the things she is insecure about, but in a playful way. Don't be a jerk!
You need to put a HIGH value on yourself and your time. Don't join VRChat as soon as you see her, or when she asks. Even if you're not busy at the time, find something to do. Make her work to get your attention. You got things to do, you'll come when you'll come. It doesn't concern her.
DISAGREEING with her when she's being unreasonable is the best thing you can do for yourself. If you give a woman all your attention, she will perceive you as a weak and submissive man, and kill any chance you had with her.
Be MYSTERIOUS. Don't tell her everything! If you give away all your secrets from the first interaction she will become bored. Keep her curious by revealing things about yourself one at a time. That will make her keep coming back for more.
Ultimately, you'll need some VRChat social proof. What I mean by that is that you need to have other female friends in your circle, women you get along with really well, but you don't necessarily have an interest in. This lets the woman know that you hang out with other females and, if she doesn't take you off the market, another woman could. If she sees the other women as a potential threat, she will act on it. Especially if your friend is playful and laughs at all your jokes. Jealousy can be a powerful motivator.
Well, guys, this is it. Now you know the right way to flirt with women in VRChat. You can also watch this article on YouTube to recap what you've learned today.
You can find me in VRChat as MuteWanderer 静か. Until next time, keep rizzing, kings!